Abuse: Playing the Victim

Abuse... Verbal, emotional, mental, physical, spiritual. No matter the type, there are varying, progressive degrees of abuse, for it only gets worse. When the abuser is no longer a part of our lives, sometimes it leaves very deep, and traumatic emotional scars. We not only live in fear that we'll be subjected to the same behavior in following relationships, but we might also exude the same abuse we experienced, on the person who's now chosen, and willing to love us the Right way.

In essence, we'll be often "playing the victim," all smiles, a seemingly healthy relationship, getting along in public bearing fake grins as big as Alive In Wonderland's Cheshire Cat, yet in the car, at home, behind closed doors, or rather when alone, we resort to degradation, demeaning & belittling the person we're with, because that's how we were "used to" being treated. Many times comparing the present person with the past assailant, using phrases such as, "You're just like..." When in all actuality, it's ourselves that have become "just like...." We carry the baggage, no... the luggage of our past relationships from one person to the next, proclaiming & reliving the things we went through, when we were actually being abused. So we "play the victim" in the public eye... Perhaps going so far as to intentionally starting arguments because we just "feel like" arguing, for the simplest reasons, becoming enraged to the point of physically attacking the person who's done us no wrong. Then, should they strike us in self-defense, should they not bow or lie down and take that mess, and fight back... Then we claim "we" were abused, or "We're" the victims... Yet sadly, somewhere along the way, we've lost the sight of what love really is. We may regularly attend church, yet have lost the closeness, the trust, the relationship, faith & belief of the power of God in our lives. And it's simply become an act of habit, a tradition, church becomes a routine, as we secede into a powerless cycle of religion.

We associate acts of kindness, and the material things that the ones whom truly loved us with all their hearts, possibly couldn't afford, yet still gave their last to us, with love. Meanwhile, the "love" we have becomes available for purchase, forsaking the fact that true love, the God-kind of agape love is priceless. So the "love" we think we have is truly lust, seeking the tangible, neglecting the precious, which is unseen by the eye, yet thrives in the heart, only using the next person for what they give to us, as many of them use us for what they can get from us.

Be aware...Greed, money, and sex are one hell of a dangerous combination to those that "could care less."... Honestly, the fact is that we're no longer victims, but have embodied the persona of the abuser, and sometimes defamed the character of a truly loving individual... Be careful, for pride not only comes before a fall, but what's hidden in darkness shall always be revealed by the Light. This Light, is the Light of the world, and His name is Jesus. Love Him.