SEX, LOVE and LUST

"Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." - 1 Corinthians 7:1-5

Let's not be coy, choosing various subjects to be too "taboo" to be addressed, by Christians, ministers, pastors, etc. After all, God told Adam and Eve to, "be fruitful and multiply," to subdue the earth, having dominion over it. Today, so much television, music, movies, videos, and so-called "romance novels," are geared toward appealing to our sexual appetites it's ridiculous. It provokes and promotes lust, which leads to the conception of sin, which in turn leads to death. Of course sexual intimacy feels good and pleases the body, especially when both parties know what they're doing and how to do it right. But since the beginning, sex been established to be shared ONLY between a husband and wife, a male and female husband and wife, for there is no other way that same-sex individuals can multiply. Nevertheless, I'll make this clear... We should respect ourselves, one another, and most importantly God, enough to abide in His way, and wait until we're wed one to another before we lie together. Sex is also an expression of love, yet there's a decency and order, (marriage,) that should be installed first. It shouldn't be, "If you love me, then do....... for me." But rather, "Since I love God, and since I love you, "I'll wait until we're married, and fight my flesh until then."... That's what Real Love is, KEEPING GOD FIRST. "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge." - Heb. 13:4

WALK IN LOVE - "Therefore be imitators of God as dear children. And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma. But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience. Therefore do not be partakers with them." - Ephesians 5:1-7

"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge." - Hebrews 13:4 (NKJV)

Here's more truth to make you free... GOD HONORS MARRIAGE... NOT SHACKING, SEXING & PROMISCUOUSLY PLAYING... AND DON'T LISTEN TO THOSE WHO WOULD RATIONALIZE IT BY SAYING, "ACCORDING TO THE BIBLE, WE ALREADY MARRIED CUZ WE HAD SEX..." TELL THAT FOOL THAT'S TRYING TO FOOL YOU, THAT IS NOT SCRIPTURE, BUT A BOLD-FACED LIE... EACH AND EVERY TIME, THE ORDER IS "... AND HE "KNEW' (CONSUMMATED/SLEPT/HAD SEX WITH) HIS WIFE"... NOT HIS/HER "BOO THING." THEY WERE MARRIED FIRST!... IF THAT WERE THE CASE, JESUS WOULD HAVE NO REASON TO SAY, "FOR THIS CAUSE, MOSES COMMANDED YOU TO GIVE HER A WRITING OF DIVORCE..." GET IT RIGHT... NO... I'M NOT A VIRGIN MYSELF, AND I TRUTHFULLY WISH I STILL WERE, BUT SINCE I KNOW BETTER, I AIM TO DO BETTER. FOR IT IS WRITTEN, "HE THAT KNOWS BETTER AND DOES IT NOT IS SIN."... DO IT THE RIGHT WAY, GOD'S WAY, RESPECT HIM & RESPECT YOURSELF. PUT A RING ON IT FIRST.

Too Much Love...

I thought, "Perhaps, I really don't know what love is... Perhaps my exes were right..."

Maybe I was wrong to give my all, as best I could do, to be open, honest, trusting and giving...

Perhaps giving my last, when I was in need, sacrificing, neglecting mine own personal needs...

At times not that much, though more than affordable, twas a mistake maybe I shouldn't have cared...

But I Loved, and still Love with the Love of the Lord, from my heart and it's pure just as His...

It is written, "No greater love hath a man than this, that he would lay down his life for a friend." As for me, I retained agape Love for each one, and that meant I'd give mine for them.

Yet I remained faithful, I wrote wedding plans, and I purchased rings to wed two out of three... Yet on two of their parts, they felt they should stray, yet the one who forgave them was me.

Their alleged "love" was attached to the tangible things and the sex, the last admitted that her's in fact was... At least five years of my life invested in each, my plan was simply to Love...

To be that provider, that husband and father, that God first formed man to be... Yes I made mistakes, yet my heart never changed, in the end I once cried, "Woe is me..."

Never again, for the next shall remain my wife until death us do part... She'll truly give, just as I will, one another God's Love from our hearts...

I thought, "I've got too much Love in me, not to be shared, for I indeed know what True Love is..."

Tired of Being Alone...

I know too many beautiful, good-hearted women that have been & are being taken advantage of, some unknowingly, simply because they're tired of being alone, some thought they "knew game" when they see/saw it, & still got hoodwinked, and chose to settle for less. I know some males that are truly good-hearted, hardworking men that have been, or are being taken advantage of as well. Same reason... Bad choices, settling for less than what's blessed. Personally, I'm tired of seeing my friends & even some strangers go through meaningless relationship after relationship being lied to, cheated on. hurt, misused and abused, all because they're "in love" with their mates, wand their mates only "have love," for them. We love wholeheartedly, always considering what we can do for them, whereas they're always wondering for the same thing... what we can do for them, give to them, buy for them, etc. And some spend even a little money on us, but no "real," "quality" time, time with God, together... Love cannot be bought.... period. Over time, after much hurt and pain, I learned to love God, to seek Him first, and though I've met some beautiful people. I've had great disappointments, (at times being wrong, hearing my voice over God's,) and sometimes not even able to tell some that God had made it clear to me, that we weren't to be together, because I didn't want to hurt their feelings, but still our friendship remains... Nevertheless, I made up in my mind to stop looking, to be content while single in Him, to KEEP God first, to KEEP my confidence in Him, not to move forward in that which He hasn't approved in my heart & spirit, but to wait on Him, expressing my heart's desire, but awaiting Him to fulfill it, as he prepares she and I both for His purposes in the meanwhile... To my friends, if you're not on One accord in Spirit with the one you're with. Take a step back, reflect on what God says, if they don't honor His Word & wait, even to stop engaging in sex with one another, until you're wed, placing His Word and walking in the spirit ABOVE the flesh, then let it go, TRUST GOD... Sometimes we have to abandon our dreams that we may see His vision clearly... Wait on the Lord... Be blessed.

A Little Study, A Little Wisdom: Why the Man Should Not Be Alone...

"Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them." - Gen. 1:26-27 (NKJV)... Now pay close attention to this...

"Say unto WISDOM, Thou art my SISTER; and call UNDERSTANDING thy KINSWOMAN: That they may keep thee from the strange woman, from the stranger which flattereth with her words." - Proverbs 7:4-5 (KJV)... "My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But LET PATIENCE HAVE HER perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing." - James 1:2-4 (KJV)

Follow me on this... When God first created man & woman, prior to the formation of Adam, and the forming of Eve from his rib in the Garden of Eden, both the male and female were spirits, made in the image and likeness of the Godhead (the Father, Son & Holy Spirit,) hence the comment, "let "us" make man in "our" image." The writer of Proverbs once penned, "Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding. Exalt HER, and SHE will promote you; SHE will bring you honor, when you embrace HER. SHE will place on your head an ornament of grace; A crown of glory SHE will deliver to you." - Prov. 4:7-9 (NKJV)... We men are known for being stubborn hard-headed, headstrong, etc. Yet since the beginning, it is written, "And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” - Gen. 2:18 (NKJV)... I find no irony in the fact that King Solomon only asked God for wisdom and wound up with over 700 concubines, when the "spirits" of wisdom, understanding and patience ARE in fact female spirits. This may even bear some vital significance on boys/men being closer to our mothers than our fathers, not because they're our primary nurturers, but simply because the keys to obtaining peace are embedded in them. I've come to believe that this is why "some of us" search for and desire a virtuous wife so fervently. What we require is wisdom, understanding, and by God you women are the ones whom patiently bear with us... The peace that surpasses ALL understanding in the matter of love, marriage and relationships can ONLY be obtained through the method in which God set forth in the beginning, with a man and his wife, a man and a woman, decently, and in order, just as it is written. If you don't like it, take it up with God, He said it. So if you really love Him, obey Him and let Him deliver you... "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh." - Gen. 2:24 (NKJV)

"Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth." - 2 Tim. 2:15 (KJV)

When It Hurts To Love...

"As a woman with child is in pain and cries out in her pangs, when she draws near the time of her delivery, so have we been in Your sight, O Lord." - Isaiah 26:17 (NKJV)

LOVE... It's much more than a simple word, and much more than an action. It's the ultimate reason God chose to send His Son to earth, to bear the cross for the sins of, and to redeem His most precious creation... Man.

LOVE is the very foundation of Christianity... It is written, "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes on Him should not perish,but shall have everlasting life." - John 3:16

LOVE is the greatest gift God could have ever given us, for by love, we may obtain everlasting life, we may be One with Him in Spirit, and live out all eternity with our Father in Heaven.

LOVE can also be the heaviest cross one carries, concerning our heartfelt feelings and emotions for one another... When this adverse effect of love takes place, it's in the midst of our compassion, positive hopes and desires for one another, that we often endure the most pain... We express a pure, unconditional, forgiving, agape love, that is often not recompensed, not embraced, and seldom returned by whom we express or render it to. We instead become the person who's watched, taken advantage of, mistrusted, and left with bearing a heart full of love that seems to lie dormant, unwittingly rejected by the objects of our affection... I ask that you be not dismayed... "

LOVE is a many splendored thing," as the saying goes. The Apostle Paul once penned that, "Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance." -1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NLT)

I urge that we continue to love... However, we must not continue to allow our hearts to be toyed with, neither place ourselves in unwanted, poor relationships for the sake of not being alone... God knows, and He cares. It hurts to let go of the one's we love... Yet after a while, because it also takes time, we realize that it's even more painful to hold onto hopelessness.

Consider Jesus... He knew no sin, did no wrong, He simply loved, yet He painfully endured rejection, lies, being spat upon, beaten, battered and bruised... because He loved us... SOMETIMES, IT HURTS TO LOVE.

"And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away." - Revelation 21:4 ... Love hurts. Just ask Jesus.